TIME to Be You!

I Am Mom! Enough! Carnival buttonWelcome to the I Am Mom! Enough! Carnival hosted by Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama and Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children.

This Carnival is dedicated to empowering ALL parents who practice and promote and peaceful, loving, attachment parenting philosophy. We have asked other parents to help us show the critics and the naysayers that attachment parenting is beautiful, uplifting, and unbelievably beneficial and NORMAL!

In addition to the Carnival, Joni from Tales of a Kitchen Witch and Jennifer from True Confessions of a Real Mommy are co-hosting a Linky Party. Please stop by either blog to share any of your posts on the topic.

Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants. Post topics are wide and varied, and every one is worth a read.


When I first looked at Time Magazine‘s article “Are You Mom Enough?”, I was shocked reading the title.  I was glad that I had been reading about attachment parenting for the past two years, so I had the opportunity to form my own opinion before basing it on that article (to be fair, I haven’t read the article itself, but plenty of commentary on it.)  I’m far from being Attachment Parent of the Year, but that doesn’t matter.  To say simply that a woman is not mom enough just because she doesn’t breastfeeds her toddler alienates a lot of women and discourages them from learning about the complete attachment parenting package.  Although the media stirs up controversy, for the sake of their bottom line, it doesn’t accomplish anything– especially not the purpose of media, which is to inform.

As I grow older, it’s easier for me to form my own opinions.  That skill couldn’t have come at a better time as it coincided with me becoming a mother.  I remember a few conversations with my step-grandma that were pretty darn scary.  All about not spoiling your newborn by picking her up too frequently, breastfeeding isn’t beneficial, don’t confuse your child with teaching her two languages (not AP related, but that put me on the defensive) and spanking/hitting is appropriate discipline.  At the time I hadn’t heard of attachment parenting or positive parenting, but I knew her “advice” didn’t resonate with my philosophy, and boy was I right!  Unfortunately these uneducated remarks come from the most ignorant and the most closed-minded.

We can’t help those that aren’t interested in learning about something new.  I hope through my example they’ll see that my children are flourishing even with some of  my “weird” parenting ideas.  It’s easy for me to judge other parents for their misguided parenting techniques, but I’m bringing myself down in the process.  I’m also setting a bad example for my children in how to react to others’ decisions that differ from your own.  I wish that all parents practiced unconditional love.  I also realize the best parent to start with is myself.

It’s TIME to:

Be TRUE to our own parenting beliefs and don’t let ill-informed suggestions linger

IMAGINE our children’s futures and try to tailor our philosophies to that visualization

Apologize for MISTAKES and remind ourselves that life isn’t meant to be perfect

Not be afraid to EVOLVE and improve ourselves

It’s TIME to unabashedly live our core values!  Our core values are important to our happiness.  When we don’t fulfill them, our happiness will decrease.  My values and strengths as a mother aren’t the same as my neighbors’ and relatives’.  Diversity is unavoidable and enriching, so let’s embrace differences and while we live true to our core values, we can do so with passion, compassion and love… all while knowing that we’re MOM enough!


Thank you for visiting the I Am Mom! Enough! Carnival hosted by hosted by Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama and Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children.
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants and check out previous posts at the linky party hosted by Joni from Tales of a Kitchen Witch and Jennifer from True Confessions of a Real Mommy:
(This list will be live and updated by afternoon May 28 with all the carnival links.)

  • Good Enough? — Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy writes about how Good Enough is not Good Enough, if you use it as an excuse to stop trying.
  • The High Cost of High Expectations JeninCanada at Fat and Not Afraid shares what it’s like to NOT feel ‘mom enough’ and wanting to always do better for herself and family.
  • TIME to Be You! — Becky at Old New Legacy encourages everyone to be true to themselves and live their core values.
  • I am mom and I have had ENOUGH — A mother had had ENOUGH of the mommy wars.
  • Motherhood vs. Feminism — Doula Julia at juliamannes.com encourages feminists to embrace the real needs and cycles and strengths of women.
  • There Is No Universal Truth When It Comes To Parenting — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama discusses how parenting looks around the world and why there is no universal parenting philosophy.
  • Attachment Parenting Assumptions — ANonyMous at Radical Ramblings argues that attachment parenting is not just for the affluent middle-classes, and that as parents we all need to stop worrying about our differences and start supporting each other.
  • Thoughts on Time Magazine, Supporting ALL Mamas, and Advocating for the Motherless — Time Magazine led That Mama Gretchen to think about her calling as a mother and how adoption will play an important role in growing her family.
  • Attachment Parenting: the Renewed Face of Feminism — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children embraces her inner feminist as she examines how the principles of attachment parenting support the equal treatment of all.
  • What a Mom Wants! — Clancy Harrison from Healthy Baby Beans writes about how women need to support each other in their different paths to get to the same destination.
  • Attachment Parenting: What One Family Wants You To Know — Jennifer, Kris, 4 year old Owen and 2 year old Sydney share the realities of attachment parenting, and how very different it looks than the media’s portrayal.
  • We ALL Are Mom Enough — Amy W. of Amy Willa: Me, Mothering, and Making It All Work thinks that all mothers should walk together through parenthood and explores her feelings in prose.
  • A Typical Day Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment shares what a typical day with her attached family looks like…all in the hopes to shed light on what Attachment Parenting is, what it’s not and that it’s unique within each family!
  • The Proof is in the (organic, all-natural) Pudding — Kym at Our Crazy Corner of the World talks about how, contrary to what the critics say, the proof that attachment parenting works in visible in the children who are parented that way.
  • I am mom and I have had ENOUGH A mother had had ENOUGH of the mommy wars.
  • Time Magazine & Mommy Wars: Enough! What Really Matters? — Abbie at Farmer’s Daughter encourages moms to stop fighting with each other, and start alongside each other.
  • Attachment parenting is about respect — Lauren at Hobo Mama breaks down what attachment parenting means to her to its simplest level.
  • I am an AP mom, regardless… — Jorje ponders how she has been an Attachment Parenting mom regardless of outside circumstances at Momma Jorje.
  • The first rule of Attachment Parenting is: You Do Not Talk about Attachment Parenting — Emily discusses, with tongue aqnd cheek, how tapping into our more primal selves actually brings us closer to who we are rather than who we think we should be.
  • Mom, I am. — Amy at Anktangle discusses how Attachment Parenting is a natural extension of who she is, and she explains the ways her parenting approach follows the “live and let live” philosophy, similar to her beliefs about many other areas of life.
  • I Breastfeed My Toddler for the Nutritional Benefits — Christine at African Babies Don’t Cry shares why ‘extended’ breastfeeding is not extreme and how she is still nursing her toddler for the nutritional benefits.
  • I Am Dad Enough! — Attachment parenting does not only have to be about moms; their partners are just as important. In Code Name: Mama’s family, Dionna’s husband, Tom, is papa enough for lots of things.

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5 Responses to TIME to Be You!

  1. Mandy says:

    Authenticity is an important thing which we can give ourselves and our children.

  2. I love how you talk about your reactions becoming a teaching moment for your children. It is so true we teach our children through our actions not our words.

  3. “It’s easy for me to judge other parents for their misguided parenting techniques, but I’m bringing myself down in the process.” Wow. I had not even looked at it like this. You are totally right…every time we pass judgment, we are actually bringing our own self down. Because really, who are we to judge what is “weird” parenting and what isn’t?

    Thanks for an honest post with some insight into your mothering and mothering journey. You are definitely standing on solid ground and represent AP beautifully!

    Thanks for being a part of this Carnival!

  4. Totally agree, I know I am the best mom for my son, just the same as my neighbour is the best mom for her son even if she may not practice AP :)

  5. Dionna Ford says:

    Love your acronym!! Apologizing for mistakes is a big one here, as I am not the ideal mama either (AP or otherwise).
    ~Dionna @ Code Name: Mama

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