The Art of Being Thoughtful

Welcome to the I Love Me! Carnival!

This post was written for inclusion in the I Love Me! Carnival hosted by Amy at Anktangle. This carnival is all about love of self, challenging you to lift yourself up, just for being you.

Please read to the bottom to find a list of submissions from the other carnival participants.

When it comes to my own strengths, being thoughtful is a characteristic that is becoming more important to me.  One that I’m honing and will, hopefully, become part of my identity as I mature.  Thoughtfulness comes easier as the years pass although it can still be a struggle.  I’m learning that thoughtfulness needs thought and time.  “Thoughtful” is a huge umbrella that consists of everything from having good manners, displaying hospitality to your visitors, volunteering, calling a friend, writing thank-you notes, to tipping those who serve you, or holding a door open for someone.  That list is, of course, the tip of the iceberg.  This post will be highlighting gift-giving, something that I want to improve on as each year goes by.

I really appreciate a good gift, especially the thought and time that goes into it.  It’s difficult to find that perfect gift for family and friends, but sometimes you stumble onto it by accident.  Here is my most recent story illustrating gift-giving.

Two months ago I was packing for our trip to Germany, where my in-laws live.  When we are able to visit my husband’s family, I am also able to see a friend of mine.  This year I had the exciting opportunity to visit two friends: Susi, who lives in the same region as my in-laws, we met on the university campus when I studied abroad; and Carlie, who just began studying in a Master’s program at the same university.  I’m the link in this friendship network and during my trip, we all decided to get together for a girls’ day out.

Before we left for our trip, I went on a quick shopping trip to get some last minute items. I hastily picked out some American chocolate for my girlfriends.  I chose two packages of Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups and two boxes of Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Bites.  The day had come that I saw my girlfriends again.  My husband dropped me off at Carlie’s dormitory.  We walked up to her room and she handed me a sweet card saying how excited she is to (finally!) experience Germany with me.  I told her that I had something for her, too.  She exclaimed, “How did you know these were my favorite?!”  I didn’t!!  And she was talking about the Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Bites that I only bought because you can’t get more American than chocolate chip cookies.  I was very glad that I bought those after she said that!  We took the bus up to a garden/castle park to meet Susi.  When I gave her the same chocolates, she was very excited about the Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups.  Later that day she gave me a watch (needed a new one!) and a stuffed mouse for my daughter (which she adores.)

After such a fun day visiting with my friends, I was grateful that I took the mere five minutes to put a few extra items in the shopping cart.  Just a little time and some thought made a huge difference in our day.  The card and gifts that they gave me showed how they value my friendship, and that thought alone means a lot to me.

Carlie, Susi, and me!

I hope that my family and friends feel that I put thought and time into the gifts that I give.  More importantly, the love and appreciation that I want to convey.  Being thoughtful shows my true character and a quality that I want my daughter to learn through my example.

Now, it’s time to think of Christmas gifts!

Thank you for reading this post from the I Love Me! Carnival. Please take some time to read the contributions from the other carnival participants:

(This list will be updated by the afternoon of October 28th with all the carnival links.)

  • The Art of Being Thoughtful – Becky at Old New Legacy likes that she is mostly thoughtful but wants to become more thoughtful. She shares a story that demonstrates that giving gifts doesn’t have to be expensive.
  • I love me (and running)! – Sheryl of Little Snowflakes writes about her new love of running and how it has helped her learn to love herself!
  • For the Love of Moe – Valerie at Momma in Progress shares her thoughts on a body forever changed, but forever loved.
  • Where I Find My Worth – Sarah at Parenting God’s Children shares how finding her worth in worldly things always falls short.
  • Oh Yeah, I’m Cool – Tree at Mom Grooves shares her very favorite gift and the thing she most wants to pass on to her daughter.
  • Loving – Rosemary at Rosmarinus Officinalis talks about some of the things she loves about herself – some easily, and some by choice for the sake of healing.
  • caught in a landslide – jaqbuncad of wakey wakey, eggs and bakey! shares a list of reasons why zie loves hir body.
  • I Love Me! – A Rampage of Appreciation! – Terri at Child of the Nature Isle stops waiting for anyone else to tell her she is wonderful and goes on a rampage of appreciation for herself!
  • Raising Healthy Daughters – In a guest post at Natural Parents Network, Kate Wicker offers tips to pass on a healthy self-image to the young ladies in our care.
  • Unexpected Benefits of a Healthy Pregnancy – How does it feel to have a healthy pregnancy? Dionna at Code Name: Mama discovers that making positive choices can be empowering.
  • Filling Up Our Watering Cans – Nada at miniMOMist believes that practicing Sabbath is the same as being a gardener who lovingly tends to the flowers in her garden. She needs to fill up her watering can first.
  • Better Body by Baby – Jess from Mama ‘Roo and Family Too! shares how having her first baby makes her feel even more beautiful and confident about her body than ever before.
  • These Breasts Were Made for Nursing – Becoming a mother helped Mandy from Living Peacefully with Children to embrace her womanhood and improve her self image.
  • Yeah, I’m Pretty Cool – Amanda at Let’s Take the Metro writes about her own self love and how she hopes to foster the same self-respect in her children.
  • Who I’ve Become – The future is bright with That Mama Gretchen who shares her past and present perspective on body image and how she hopes to become a change agent with her daughter.
  • Ever-Evolving Me – Joella at Fine and Fair writes to her daughter about her innate drive to continue learning, growing, and evolving.
  • I love you for your mind – Lauren at Hobo Mama turns a dubious phrase on its head with a little self-loving slam poetry.
  • Stop Think of Love with Your Body – Amy of Peace 4 Parents shares an exercise to gradually transition from hating to loving your body – stretch marks, sags, imperfections, and all.
  • I Love Me! – Jenny @ I’m a full-time mummy shares the things that she loves about herself!
  • First, I’m Superwoman. Later, I’m SupperwomanPatti @ Jazzy Mama explains how she loves taking care of her amazing body. It birthed 4 children, after all!
  • Baby Strikes A Pose – Emma from Your Fonder Heart writes about her family’s decision not to let their 7 month old model, and uses the opportunity to think more deeply about girls (young and old) and how they determine their self-worth.
  • Love Your Tree – How do you picture the ways your body and mind change? Amy at Anktangle writes about how trees help her have perspective about her own growth over time.
  • Pumpkin Butt – Zoie at TouchstoneZ writes about how birth and pumpkins are the way to accepting her body
  • I do love me – Shannon at Pineapples & Artichokes talks about the lessons about loving herself she wants to pass along to her daughter.
  • Appreciating Who I Am – Linni at An Unschooling Adventure describes the things she likes about herself and the way she appreciates who she is as a person.
  • I love me! : A journey – Christine at African Babies Don’t Cry shares her journey on arriving at the point where she can say: I love me!
  • My Daughter Doesn’t Care So Why Should I? – Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama calls herself on the carpet for the image of self love and beauty she portrays in front of her toddler.
  • Finding out who I am – Melissa at Vibrant Wanderings shares an exercise that helped her identify positive qualities she possesses, and how that has helped her learn to love herself.

About fraurab

A Germanophile, who is figuring out how to build her strengths through improving her mind, body and soul.
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9 Responses to The Art of Being Thoughtful

  1. I love this – thoughtfulness really does make the world a better place. Even just a smile can brighten someones day. Thanks for the reminder and inspiration to be increasingly more thoughtful.

  2. teresa says:

    I apologize if you get two from me… it didn’t seem to take my first comment….
    Love this post, and the whole concept of nurturing your thoughtfulness. It truly is a quality that can enhance so much of life.
    You did a great job with your friends. It was such a fun story to read.

  3. Christine says:

    This is one area of myself that I have let slide over the past few years… too busy being stressed out to think of others enough perhaps. Thanks for the inspiration to get back on track! :)

  4. jaqbuncad says:

    I’m really enjoying this post – there are definitely days when the unexpected, unlooked-for thoughtfulness of a friend or family member has been that day’s saving grace, and it’s good to be reminded to pay it forward.

  5. Thoughtfulness is such a tough, tough thing. I am generous to a fault and have always prided myself on being thoughtful but motherhood has actually encroached on that to some degree. Being a mother has forced me to shove aside some of who I was and what I used to do…there are only so many hours in the day after all.

    Thank you for the reminder that it really is important to take the time to be thoughtful. Even the smallest of well considered gestures can make a world of difference.

  6. Sometimes it takes such a simple gesture to show us how much we truly mean to someone. Thanks for sharing your lovely story with us!

  7. Wonderful!! Great inspiration here! I think we could all hone our thoughtful bone :)

  8. I love this take on the carnival theme, Becky! Being thoughtful is so incredibly important, and I truly believe that it doesn’t take much to show someone how much you care and that you were thinking of them. I certainly have room to grow in this area, so thank you for the inspiration!

  9. Greetings from Malaysia! Hopping in from the carnival!

    Wow! That was so nice of you! I’d love to be more thoughtful too!

    Have a nice day!

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